" High-School & College: Dating Advice "
Hi, My Brothers
Hope y'all are having a great labor day weekend. I haven't posted this weekend (Friday & Saturday), y'all probably think I'm partying (I'm not). I've been battling a cold, so forgive me. Anyway, if you follow me on Twitter (@BrownBrotherWeb) you already know I post a tweet saying that I would do a relationship article. Now, this is a serious blog; but I have come to see (in my later years) that Love is Serious. Love is Important. Therefore, I thought I would go ahead and do this.
Now, I am by no means a "pick-up artist or a player." Therefore, if you think my advice is boring just press the skip button (I'm just playing). But, if you stay I'm going to give you some free advice: Something I can always offer/provide. Let's go ahead and jump into it.
1. No means NO!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope this should not have to be said. However, just for all intensive purposes I thought I would say this for good measure. No doesn't mean Yes. No means No!
2. Chavilary- Someone said that Chivalry was dead. However, I say it isn't. Be a man and be a gentleman. In all that you do and say. Show her that your Mom raised you right. Held the door open for her, pay for the first date, and watch your language when around her. Chavilary is a lost art in today's society, therefore your date will find (you being a gentleman) refreshing and it will set you apart from everyone else.
3. The APPROACH is E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G -
Let me tell you something My Brothers in life you will find-out timing is everything. Rather going to work, getting a job, or trying to date the young woman of your dreams. TIMING Is Everything.
I don't really believe in "pick-up lines", but I do believe in the "power of the approach."
(1) Come Correct- When you want to approach someone you most do three things when approaching with confidence, but most importantly approach with manners. When you walk up to someone, a simple "Excuse me, Miss" is what you need to say. Not, "HI, GET OVER HERE"! This never works.
(2) Timing- I said it at the beginning, timing is everything. At the school I'm attending, there is a whether dark hall-way/corner. Now, this is a red zone. Never, approach a female (or anyone) in a dark alley/zone. You will either come off as a creep or a weirdo. Therefore, if you want to talk to someone or approach; do I outside or in a place with adequate lighting.
(3) Have Confidence- Like I said in the beginning, have confidence. Females are just as instinctive, if not more than we are. Therefore, be confident in who you are. Be yourself. I know that statement is played-out, but it is true. You will always be uncomfortable, if you pretend to be something your not.
Therefore, be confident but not arrogant.
4. Playing The FIELD-
Now, this one is important. You are in high-school or college. I pray you don't play he field and end up losing both "associates." Therefore, as for playing the field don't do it. If you want to casually date, do that. However, do not string anyone alone. MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS KNOWN!!!!
5. Playing the FIELD (PART II) -
You are a Young Brother, and I want y'all to be safe. Therefore, a lot of Brothers die because they make this mistake. They mess around with another dude's girl and get killed. Therefore, when dating make sure that the person you are dating is 100% single (including no crazy ex-boyfriend).
I hear this line all the time,
Girl: " I have a boyfriend "
Brother: " Would you like a man-friend."
This line is stupid and dangerous. If you mess with another man's lady, expect something bad to happen. And, believe me it will.
6. Do your homework- Know who your dealing with.
When in high-school or college usually you don't know who your dealing with. The person you are dealing could be playing you (dating two people at the same time), a unlikely match, or even a serial killer. Therefore, do your homework.
Don't stalk, but it's nothing wrong with checking out someone's social media accounts. Try to get some information from friends, or even call your Mom and ask her what she thinks about your potential "friend."
7. Make her feel safe-
Make her feel safe. Rather this is y'all first date together or y'all two-year anniversary: Make HER Feel Safe. Every human being wants comfort. No matter the time-period, gender, age, or nation. Therefore, show Her that you are calm and cool. Like I state always: Be a Gentleman and a strong man of GOD.
8. Don't push it-
If she doesn't like you, she just doesn't. That doesn't mean something is wrong with you or something is wrong with her. It just means that you two aren't compatible. However, don't push things. What's meant to be is meant to be. Like I said, the best advice I can give is: Just don't be strange/weird.
If she doesn't text back, just take the lost and live life. You can't force someone to love/like you. Actually, they will only think your a threat or even hate you. Therefore, don't push it. Your young and you have plenty of time to find the "ONE."
9. What to do-
Dude, please don't be weird. I mean just be you, and let the chips fall were they may. Just do what you can. Treat her with respect, have decent conversation, and look generally/sincerely interested in what she says. However, just don't look interested (actually be interested); ask questions and try to get to know this person. Last, be on your best behavior. The three clean's I like to say (1) Look cut, (2) have a clean mouth, and (3) have a clean personality.
PS: Ask questions. Here are a few questions to ask to spark the conversation.
(1) How many siblings do you have?
(2) What is your favorite class (in school) so far?
(3) Favorite Movie all-time?
(4) Netflix or regular TV Shows?
Questions like these will get the conversation started easily.
10. Be a man of your word-
This is a lost art in today's society. Being a man of your word, means being honest and always doing the best you can. Your word (your promise) should be just as solid/bonding as pen and paper.
If you say your going to be at the restaurant at 7:00pm, be there at seven.
Something my mom always said that has stuck with me, she said "You'll rather be early, then be late." Therefore, be a man of your word. Rather in dating, business, or school. If you are a man of your word; you will have success in life (sooner or later).
Hi, My Brothers
Hope y'all are having a great labor day weekend. I haven't posted this weekend (Friday & Saturday), y'all probably think I'm partying (I'm not). I've been battling a cold, so forgive me. Anyway, if you follow me on Twitter (@BrownBrotherWeb) you already know I post a tweet saying that I would do a relationship article. Now, this is a serious blog; but I have come to see (in my later years) that Love is Serious. Love is Important. Therefore, I thought I would go ahead and do this.
Now, I am by no means a "pick-up artist or a player." Therefore, if you think my advice is boring just press the skip button (I'm just playing). But, if you stay I'm going to give you some free advice: Something I can always offer/provide. Let's go ahead and jump into it.
1. No means NO!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope this should not have to be said. However, just for all intensive purposes I thought I would say this for good measure. No doesn't mean Yes. No means No!
2. Chavilary- Someone said that Chivalry was dead. However, I say it isn't. Be a man and be a gentleman. In all that you do and say. Show her that your Mom raised you right. Held the door open for her, pay for the first date, and watch your language when around her. Chavilary is a lost art in today's society, therefore your date will find (you being a gentleman) refreshing and it will set you apart from everyone else.
3. The APPROACH is E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G -
Let me tell you something My Brothers in life you will find-out timing is everything. Rather going to work, getting a job, or trying to date the young woman of your dreams. TIMING Is Everything.
I don't really believe in "pick-up lines", but I do believe in the "power of the approach."
(1) Come Correct- When you want to approach someone you most do three things when approaching with confidence, but most importantly approach with manners. When you walk up to someone, a simple "Excuse me, Miss" is what you need to say. Not, "HI, GET OVER HERE"! This never works.
(2) Timing- I said it at the beginning, timing is everything. At the school I'm attending, there is a whether dark hall-way/corner. Now, this is a red zone. Never, approach a female (or anyone) in a dark alley/zone. You will either come off as a creep or a weirdo. Therefore, if you want to talk to someone or approach; do I outside or in a place with adequate lighting.
(3) Have Confidence- Like I said in the beginning, have confidence. Females are just as instinctive, if not more than we are. Therefore, be confident in who you are. Be yourself. I know that statement is played-out, but it is true. You will always be uncomfortable, if you pretend to be something your not.
Therefore, be confident but not arrogant.
4. Playing The FIELD-
Now, this one is important. You are in high-school or college. I pray you don't play he field and end up losing both "associates." Therefore, as for playing the field don't do it. If you want to casually date, do that. However, do not string anyone alone. MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS KNOWN!!!!
5. Playing the FIELD (PART II) -
You are a Young Brother, and I want y'all to be safe. Therefore, a lot of Brothers die because they make this mistake. They mess around with another dude's girl and get killed. Therefore, when dating make sure that the person you are dating is 100% single (including no crazy ex-boyfriend).
I hear this line all the time,
Girl: " I have a boyfriend "
Brother: " Would you like a man-friend."
This line is stupid and dangerous. If you mess with another man's lady, expect something bad to happen. And, believe me it will.
6. Do your homework- Know who your dealing with.
When in high-school or college usually you don't know who your dealing with. The person you are dealing could be playing you (dating two people at the same time), a unlikely match, or even a serial killer. Therefore, do your homework.
Don't stalk, but it's nothing wrong with checking out someone's social media accounts. Try to get some information from friends, or even call your Mom and ask her what she thinks about your potential "friend."
7. Make her feel safe-
Make her feel safe. Rather this is y'all first date together or y'all two-year anniversary: Make HER Feel Safe. Every human being wants comfort. No matter the time-period, gender, age, or nation. Therefore, show Her that you are calm and cool. Like I state always: Be a Gentleman and a strong man of GOD.
8. Don't push it-
If she doesn't like you, she just doesn't. That doesn't mean something is wrong with you or something is wrong with her. It just means that you two aren't compatible. However, don't push things. What's meant to be is meant to be. Like I said, the best advice I can give is: Just don't be strange/weird.
If she doesn't text back, just take the lost and live life. You can't force someone to love/like you. Actually, they will only think your a threat or even hate you. Therefore, don't push it. Your young and you have plenty of time to find the "ONE."
9. What to do-
Dude, please don't be weird. I mean just be you, and let the chips fall were they may. Just do what you can. Treat her with respect, have decent conversation, and look generally/sincerely interested in what she says. However, just don't look interested (actually be interested); ask questions and try to get to know this person. Last, be on your best behavior. The three clean's I like to say (1) Look cut, (2) have a clean mouth, and (3) have a clean personality.
PS: Ask questions. Here are a few questions to ask to spark the conversation.
(1) How many siblings do you have?
(2) What is your favorite class (in school) so far?
(3) Favorite Movie all-time?
(4) Netflix or regular TV Shows?
Questions like these will get the conversation started easily.
10. Be a man of your word-
This is a lost art in today's society. Being a man of your word, means being honest and always doing the best you can. Your word (your promise) should be just as solid/bonding as pen and paper.
If you say your going to be at the restaurant at 7:00pm, be there at seven.
Something my mom always said that has stuck with me, she said "You'll rather be early, then be late." Therefore, be a man of your word. Rather in dating, business, or school. If you are a man of your word; you will have success in life (sooner or later).
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